front cover photo

The Book

My Mother My Daughter: A Memoir traces the author’s lifelong emotional and psychological odyssey as a World War II German orphan until when she, an older adult adoptee, finally found resolution. The essence of adoption is presented through a recount of her struggles with her adoptive American parents and her adventures to be someone of value.

While the memoir tells a true story, it uses a fictional character to confront the first‑person viewpoint, allowing the content to have an honest, fair, and compassionate perspective of the mother who gave Marita Malone away, of the adoptive parents who took her in, and of the adopted child who could have so easily blamed everyone else and had not eventually taken responsibility for herself.

In the third part of the memoir, the author finds her birth mother in Germany, and from there, her past unravels. Her beliefs about being adopted are tested and changed.

The memoir leaves a message to fellow adult adoptees that we must now accept responsibility for who we are; and to adoptive parents, that the adopted children are thinking of loss while the parents are thinking only of the gain. The adoptive parents must assess who they are and what they want, and know that “primal wounds” (Nancy Verrier) of the children last a long time, if not forever.

The memoir is a lyrical story with a qualified happy ending. The happiest part for the author, though, was realizing that victims do not have to remain victims; nothing in their lives is granite unless they want it to be that way.

My Mother My Daughter is an exceptional book club discussion. Numerous clubs have asked the author to either present to or discuss with the club. If your book club is interested please feel free to contact us.

“One of the most fascinating and insightful adoption stories I’ve read, Ms. Malone captures the essence of the psychological and social issues evident in adoption in a most intriguing way. Not only are we led through her life’s struggles and adventures, but we are treated to her inner wise woman in the form of an “old lady bookend,” who speaks to her throughout her life. Although she finds disappointments and frustrations as she pursues her journey to herself, her story provides proof that with courage, honesty, and tenacity there can be a happy ending to this lifelong odyssey. This book will appeal not only to everyone connected to adoption but to those who enjoy an interesting adventure as well.”
-Nancy Verrier
LFT, International Lecturer and Author of The Primal Wound and Coming Home to Self

“Orphan Train and newly released My Mother, My Daughter by Marita Malone are masterfully written - Kline's in her research, Malone's in her personal life experience. Each book unravels the orphan tale via a medium - Kline's through a fictitious modern day parallel, Malone's with her heart, her bookends. Must read both to capture insight into the thoughts and feelings of a young child cast aside, then catapulted into the "safety net" of foster homes/adoptive parents. Compelling, each in their own way, as the child reaches adolescence then adulthood. Must read!”
-CPA and former worker with mentally and physically disabled children

“Quality book club reading . . . ,” “A fresh approach! . . . ,” “. . . brutally honest,” “. . . I didn’t want to stop reading . . . ,” “. . . such an emotional experience for me, the reader,” ”a brilliant study of detachment . . . .”

Travel Agent and Former Teacher

“Is there anyone among us who has not yearned for acceptance, who has not faced challenges in relationships with siblings or parents, who has not known about their ancestors, who has not struggled to find life's direction? While touted as a must-read for families of adoption (and rightly so!), this book has a universal appeal to all of us who journey the path to self-discovery. My Mother, My Daughter is a fascinating memoir written by a remarkable and resilient woman. In this book, Malone reveals her strength, but also her vulnerability. Her writing style is easy to read, insightful, humorous at times, and always poignant. A great read!”
-Travel Agent and Former Teacher

Get Your Copy of My Mother My Daughter: A Memoir